Friday, March 15, 2013

Can You See Your Own Faults?

All of us have shortcomings. In order for us to effectively deal with them so we can become more like Christ, however, we must be able to see what our problem areas are and be willing to address them. We are all experts at seeing what’s wrong with others. But it’s often hard for us to see our own faults.

A great example of this difficulty to see our own faults is found in the Old Testament. It involves David the King of Israel. He lied with another man’s wife named Bath-sheba, got her pregnant, and then had the man killed in battle to cover up his sin. Yes, this is in the Bible.

Anyway, God sent a prophet by the name of Nathan to rebuke David for his wicked sin. Instead of talking in direct terms, Nathan recounted the transgression in a parable. And when David heard what the man in the parable had done, this is what the Bible said about David’s response: “And David’s anger was greatly kindled against the man; and he said to Nathan, As the Lord lives, the man that has done this thing shall surely die” (2 Samuel 12:5).
And this how Nathan responded to David’s words: “You are the man” (verse 7)!

So it was only when he thought Nathan was talking about someone else that David could see how terrible what he had done was. I believe we can relate to this double standard. We tend to be harder on others than we are on ourselves. Sometimes, we may outright deny that we have a problem area, even when people who love us and who have our best interest at heart confront us about the problem. Or we may acknowledge the truth of what others are saying, but we rationalize our character flaws or our sins.
Can you see your own faults? Can you make an impartial self-examination of yourself? Do you have the same sharp eye for detecting areas where you miss mark that you have when observing the conduct of others? Appropriate actions to correct our character flaws cannot take place until we can see the problem as it really is, own up to it, and resolve to deal with it.

The Bible refers to David as a man after God’s own heart. But in the matter of Bath-sheba, David was about as ungodly as one can get. Similarly, the question is not whether or not we will miss God at times because the truth is that all of us will. Rather, the question is, when we do miss the mark, will we see our own fault and what will we do about it?
Copyright © 2013 by Frank King

4 comments:

Rum-Punch Drunk said...

That's why constructive criticism is so good for me because sometimes I can be saying or doing something that I have no idea is offensive or wrong but someone else kindly points out the issue and I have an opportunity to make it right.
I also tend to be much harder on myself (according to others). I just see too many of my faults, and it does cause me grief at times.

Some people just don't want to accept that they have faults. Regardless to how nicely you try to talk to them or how many times you try to correct them, it's like hurling pearls before swine, so to speak. It's frustrating but I'm sure in the long run, they will find out. Nice Post.

Frank King said...

Even though it can be painful to hear at times, constructive criticism is always good. But you are right, some people are not open to having their faults pointed out to them, even when the objective is to help them better themselves in some way.

One of my greatest helps in this regard is the Bible. I don't just read it to say I read the Bible. I really want to hear what God is saying to me. I want to know how I am measuring up to the person God wants me to be. In my view, that's has to be one of the most important goals of the Christian life, since all of us are so far from the mark that God has set.

Nuru Nyambura Ngugi said...

Great message. I have discovered that the best way for us to see and know our faults is to look at ourselves in the image and likeness of Christ.

Frank King said...

I agree. Christ is the standard. Christlikeness should be our goal, and that should keep us busy for a lifetime.